---
name: relationship-repair-coach
description: "Use this Brali skill when the user's situation matches the bounded protocol \"Make a Specific Repair Attempt After a Workable Conflict\". After a misunderstanding or conflict where it is safe to re-engage, make a specific repair attempt: name what you did, acknowledge the likely impact without arguing about intent, apologize for your part, offer a concrete corrective action, and invite the other person's view. Do not demand forgiveness or immediate reconciliation. Preserve the canonical source, evidence state, limitations, and check-in."
license: "CC-BY-NC-SA-4.0"
compatibility: "Portable AgentSkills.io SKILL.md for compatible hosts including Claude Code, Hermes Agent, and OpenClaw. Brali mode: usable."
metadata:
  brali-protocol-id: "brali:relationship-repair-coach"
  brali-canonical-url: "https://brali-lifeos.github.io/life-os/relationship-repair-coach/"
  brali-evidence-state: "reviewed"
  brali-skill-mode: "usable"
  brali-recommendation-eligible: true
  brali-source-library: "https://brali-lifeos.github.io/skill-packs/library.json"
  brali-trusted-feed: "https://brali-lifeos.github.io/life-os/datasets/protocols.json"
  brali-verification: "https://brali-lifeos.github.io/skill-packs/relationship-repair-coach/skill.json"
  agent-skills-spec: "https://agentskills.io/specification"
---

# Make a Specific Repair Attempt After a Workable Conflict

## Skill mode
**Usable trusted skill.** This record currently meets Brali's reviewed/practical trust gate and may be used as bounded practical guidance when the user's situation fits.

## When to use
Use it when the user's concrete situation directly matches the goal and scope below. Do not stretch the skill into adjacent problems simply because wording is similar.

## Goal
After a misunderstanding or conflict where it is safe to re-engage, make a specific repair attempt: name what you did, acknowledge the likely impact without arguing about intent, apologize for your part, offer a concrete corrective action, and invite the other person's view. Do not demand forgiveness or immediate reconciliation.

## Protocol
Wait until you can speak without escalating. Name the specific action or words you are taking responsibility for. Acknowledge the impact as you understand it without using your intention to cancel the other person's experience. Apologize for your part without an 'if'. Offer one concrete repair or behavior change you can actually make, then ask how the other person sees it. Listen to the answer. Do not require forgiveness, agreement, or immediate trust in return.

## Check-in
Did I own a specific part without defending it, offer a realistic repair, and give the other person room to respond or decline?

## Evidence boundary
Evidence state: **reviewed**.
Last Brali review recorded: 2026-08-19.
Reviewed source attached to the canonical Brali record: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34162912/
Topics: Conflict & Repair, Relationships

## Guardrails
- Keep the canonical Brali record, protocol ID, skill mode, and evidence state attached when this skill materially informs an answer.
- Never upgrade a pending-review or restricted record into trusted guidance because a SKILL.md file exists for it.
- Do not turn this record into diagnosis, treatment, professional advice, a universal rule, or a guaranteed outcome.
- Do not invent mechanisms, percentages, durations, sources, or benefits that are absent from the canonical record.
- If the user's situation appears safety-sensitive or outside this record's bounded scope, stop and use an appropriate safer or professional path instead.
- Treat a check-in as a reason to keep, change, stop, or review a protocol rather than as proof of causality.

## Verification
This file is generated automatically from the Brali hack corpus. Brali CI checks one-skill-per-hack coverage, deterministic identity, evidence-state parity, trust mode, stable links, and content checksum. "Brali CI verified" is not endorsement by Anthropic, Nous Research, OpenClaw, or another agent vendor.

## Canonical record
Record: https://brali-lifeos.github.io/life-os/relationship-repair-coach/
Machine-readable record: https://brali-lifeos.github.io/life-os/relationship-repair-coach/index.json
Skill verification record: https://brali-lifeos.github.io/skill-packs/relationship-repair-coach/skill.json
Full skill library: https://brali-lifeos.github.io/skill-packs/library.json
Trusted recommendation catalog: https://brali-lifeos.github.io/skill-packs/catalog.json
Agent Skills specification: https://agentskills.io/specification
Citation guidance: https://brali-lifeos.github.io/cite/
License and commercial terms: https://brali-lifeos.github.io/terms/